In my intro blog about me your St Kilda Celebrant, I said in my crazy facts (although not so crazy is this one) that I miss my grandma. She was my 2nd mum and passed away 6 weeks before my wedding date and I really felt that;
“having her as such a big part of my life, I wanted to honour her and her presence on my wedding day.”
Here are a few wedding tips on things I incorporated into our wedding to remember her, which you might use to honour those you love who are no longer with you...
BAG as fate would have it I hadn’t been able to find a bag to put all my essentials in (for a list of what you need see my post here). I found gran’s super cool maroon glo-mesh to do the trick (my something “borrowed” for those who follow these traditions). This led to the incorporation of a few other details ....
FLOWERS Her favourite flowers were carnations (thanks for having cheap flower tastes as wedding flower costs can be phenomenal!) I used them in my table flowers, adding a single maroon carnation to add colour to the jars of white florals. I also used some of her vintage crystal vases for flowers which I had at our head table.
PICTURES Pinterest has some really sweet signs to remember people who had passed. It was nice for the people who had never met her to know who was being talked about in our ceremony so lovingly. There’s lots of other inspo where couples have put their loved ones pictures on a reserved chair during the ceremony – you could even exchange that to putting a special item of clothing on a special chair.
CEREMONY My gran was quite religious, but we were having a civil ceremony. So I used my her bible to place our rings on and decorated it with burlap and lace.
WARNING: if your celebrant (me!) is going to mention a loved one who may be passed, you might want to let your biggest cry baby know about it before hand (although it makes for great pics).
Let me know if there are any unique or unusual ways people who can’t be present have been honoured at a wedding....
Kelly Rossi - Melbourne Marriage Celebrant